I really related to this lovely response by BelleChere, and I wanted to share it with y’all because I know she and I are not the only ones who feel this way. Hope she doesn’t mind. <3
My thicker thighed sisters PREACH IT! That’s usually the main thing people like to point out or ridicule me for.
I adore all three of you ladies for a multitude of reasons, the main one being how you always take a stand and allow your voice to be heard. Regardless of what society deems as “beautiful’, which is absolutely absurd in my opinion, you three are beyond amazing (as are many of the women I know like you), your easy going personalities—from what I’ve seen and heard from mutual friends— make you beautiful. Your lovely curves only add to it. I look forward to running into you in the near future at a con.
Wow, thank you. That just made my night. :)
Haus of Meta: Could you imagine getting an apartment with the person you love….
Could you imagine getting an apartment with the person you love. Falling asleep beside each other, and waking up to see that cute little dopey smile they make when they first get up. You’d never have a bad start to your day, because they’d be the perfect start.
… Except that eventually the…
Or it could be somewhere in the middle? Real life and routine are beautiful ways to test and strengthen your relationship. I love living with my partner, even if its not exciting and romantic every single day. There is something comforting and lovely about knowing they call the same place home, even if we fight or make messes. I’ve learned a lot about myself—my needs, my patience and tolerance levels, my communication skills—through living with my partners. It’s not a fairy tale, but it’s not a doomed affair either. It takes work to make a home. And I personally think it’s still wonderful.
<3 you, baby, and your man too! I think ideally it falls somewhere in the middle, absolutely. But posts like the original contribute to this fairy tale idea that young, inexperienced people have about what a relationship should be. You just can’t expect never having a bad start to your day just because you live with someone. “It SHOULD be perfect every morning, why isn’t it?” you’ll say, and screw you and your partner over by questioning why they haven’t magically made everything perfect for you.
Anyway, because the OP presented one end of the spectrum as if it were inevitable, I went ahead and presented the other. I AM depressed. ;)
Could you imagine getting an apartment with the person you love. Falling asleep beside each other, and waking up to see that cute little dopey smile they make when they first get up. You’d never have a bad start to your day, because they’d be the perfect start.
… Except that eventually the novelty would fade and you’d realize that actually what living together means is not only do you still have to deal with everything that’s actually going on in your life every time you wake up in the morning, but living with someone means constant compromise. You won’t be able to go to sleep together because your circadian rhythms will be slightly different. They’ll have to get up for work before you and they’ll wake you up. They’ll become depressed and they’ll stay in bed all day and you won’t see them smile and you’ll have to leave them there, feeling helpless because you can’t do anything for them, and wishing that everything could be the way it was when you first moved in together, but it can’t, because that’s real life.
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Beginning to think I am some sort of oddity since I don’t explode in ‘feels’ during television shows and films and whilst reading literature and things.
I can be emotionally impacted by something of the sort that is done well, sure, but I don’t become a sobby mess and roll around on the floor like most seem to.
I dunno, evidently, I am weird. O_o
Nah, I’m the same way. There’s stuff I love, but I don’t obsess over any series or characters or pairings in that teenagerly way anymore. I also don’t have “fandoms.” Just things I really like and things I don’t really like.
Sometimes I want to buy, like, a Firefly shirt or something, and then I feel awkward because I’m not enough of a rabid fan to actually wear a whole SHIRT, am I? :P
If you’re going to block someone on Facebook so they can’t tell the internet how much of an asshole you are, you should probably invest in some security settings, instead of posting everything globally.
I’m sorry guys. I normally don’t reblog things that aren’t GCS related. But this pisses me the fuck off. As an up and coming cosplayer, seeing this guy rip people off, and then threaten them and belittle them due to their sex realllllly pisses me off! Cosplayers of the world, please boycott this guy. It’s not so much the fact that he’s grifting people, as much as it is that he’s a rude sexist pig. Don’t support this tool.
…….HA!! ^That’s pretty funny coming from somebody who runs a blog entirely off of posting the hard work of others but consistently, and incredibly rudely, refuses to credit ANYONE whose work they use. EVER.
I have literally seen you call someone a “stupid ass ho” when they called you out on it, and and you talked some shit to me, too. Take a moment to re-examine yourself. You make other people feel the same way as you do about this guy.
I never post on Tumblr, so I’m hoping my few followers can help me get this word out by reblogging…
I work for a hotel that hosts a major US con every year. I love anime and I go to cons myself, but I am going to be blunt about some of the problems we have and how we deal with them. I don’t know why people lose common sense when attending cons. I realize that most con-goers are young, and probably haven’t traveled alone before. They’re also really excited to go to a con and to see people they’ve only chatted with on line.
But…things have gotten out of hand.
So, please…read this list of Bad Behaviors that I’ve seen over the past three years and please…don’t do them!
1. Completely Trashing Rooms. I have part of the team that has to take pictures of the damages left behind after a con. We will bill you. Sometimes, we won’t even tell you. We’ll just charge it on your credit or debit card. Again, the tiny print in the contract allows us to do this. We take pictures in case you try and dispute the charge with the credit card.
2. Being a Homeless Congoer. These are the people who don’t have a room but figure they can sleep in the lobby, stairwell, hallways, whatever. We’re on to you. We will remove you from the premises. If you are underage, we will still call the police.
3. Being Unable to Pay for Your Room or Food. These are the people who usually make arrangements for rooms with online friends. One friend books the room on a credit card, but when it comes time to settle the bill and the so-called friends are asked to pay their share in cash or come up their own credit card to split…there’s suddenly no money. I feel bad for the person who booked the room, and I’m sorry that you’re not going to make rent, or that your mom is sick, or that you’re a poor college student or whatever. Please don’t stand in the lobby and cry or try to offer me “free art commissions” or the horns off your Homestuck costume. My hotel does not accept those as payment.4. Having Noise Complaints Lodged Against You. So, that little gathering you decided to have in your room is getting pretty loud and despite two phone calls from the desk asking you to quiet down, you refuse to do so. Guess what, the hotel management is throwing you out. We’ll have our security guards tell you and then the police will escort you from the premises. No, you will not get a refund. No, we don’t care you have nowhere to go. Maybe those two phone calls should’ve clued you into the problems you were causing.
6. Acting Like You Own the Hotel. These are the people who think that since they paid X dollars for their con badge and Y dollars for the room they are entitled to do whatever and whenever they want. Here are some of the most ridiculous (and this is by far not an inclusive list):
a. Taking their clothes off and running down the hall
b. Wearing full Homestuck body paint and jumping in the pool and hot tubs.
c. Screaming “KAWAII!” at random people
d. Camping out in the hotel restaurant and not ordering anything
e. Running through a wedding reception in different a ballroom while shouting “HETALIA!!!”
f. Smashing a brand new TV in one of the rooms
g. Sex in the lobby. While in cosplay.
h. Setting up an “art table” in the middle of the lobby. (She didn’t get an artist alley table and was mad about it…
i. Pulling the fire alarm at 3AM and forcing an evacuation (This person was prosecuted. We caught them on tape)
k. A cosplay-photo shoot that went out of control with photographers physically fighting with each other…in the lobby.One more note: Our manager is really upset about the amount of clean-up required after the Homestuck cosplayers we had last year. Bathrooms and bathtubs were covered in gray body paint, and the pool and hot tubs had to be drained and cleaned because some of them thought that would be a quick way to get it off. Manager is thinking of putting in the contract with the con that they have to ban Homestuck cosplay to prevent this in the future.
So, as a Homestuck, I beg you! Please, please, don’t do this! Clean up after yourself!
My jaw actually dropped.
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I dunno though. For how long can you do this before you’re shooting yourself in the foot? I am full of doubts and confusion.
(via hattiewatson)
Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
I dearly love it, I look forward to this day all year. It’s this Saturday!
Just one quick thought.
I know I say this every year, but a lot of people believe that the comics the comic shops give away are given free to retailers.
They are not. Retailers have to pay for the books. They pay a reduced fee, but they still pay for them. They also have to pay shipping. They have to pay for ads and they have to usually pay for extra employees, and many shops pay to have guests or other special events. It can end up being a huge expense, and even though a lot of new readers might come by, part of it is also a celebration of comics, and a lovely little bonus for the shop’s loyal customers.
It’s a great deal of effort, as well, in most cases.
What I would ask everyone to do is, when you go to get your free comics, please take a little bit of extra time, even if it’s crowded, to shop in the store. Try a couple new comics off the rack or a new trade collection you have been thinking about. Maybe if you buy Magic cards or game supplies somewhere else, usually, think about buying some at the hosting store while you are there. It will add up and make their Free Comic Book Day much more successful and everyone will be happy, and it’s a nice way to say thank you.
Just a thought, but when picking up your free comics, please send a little bit of shopping love to the store that is putting on the event for you. Do it ON Free Comic Book Day so that they know the day is a success and that all their expense and effort is appreciated.
Your comic store will love you and I will love you!
I love Free Comic Book Day. It’s a celebration for hard core fans and comics newbies both, and I attend one every year. The joy on the face of a kid getting his first free comic is wonderful, as is the delight of a long time reader trying a new book for the first time. I LOVE IT.
I would love people to reblog this, and if your local comic store (or if you are a retailer or employee yourself), is having a Free Comic Book Day Event this Saturday, please respond here with the details so my many many readers will be aware of these wonderful events.
I always post this little proviso…please remember, these comics are NOT free to retailers. They pay a reduced fee for the books, but it’s still very expensive to give them away to thousands of customers, they pay for the books, extra help, shipping, and all related celebration expenses. It adds up fast, and they are doing it to promote comics and reward their loyal readers. PLEASE do me a favor and do a little shopping while picking up your free books…just try a couple new titles you have never tried before, or maybe get your Magic cards or game supplies or long boxes that you already would get somewhere else, usually. This event is meant to support readers, but it would be lovely if everyone also showed some love back to the retailers hosting these events!
For those wondering, I will be at THIRD EYE COMICS in Annapolis, MD, all day Saturday, from around nine to around four. Please come say hi! I will be giving away the Red Sonja mini-prints for as long as I have them available!
Please spread the word, and add your local store’s info, if they are holding an event. THANK YOU!
I will be at Dr. Comics and Mr. Games on Piedmont Avenue in Oakland for Free Comic Book Day this Saturday! Come by and say hello!
And while you’re there, DO buy something - I think it’s great that Ms. Simone mentioned the truth that the comics are NOT free to the retailers, so it really is an event from the goodness of their hearts. :) Plus, Dr. Comics is going to be having a rad sale!
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Enjoy 25% off EVERYTHING* in the store, with a different daily special each day of the sale:
Friday (5/3): 1/2 off clearance items
Saturday (5/4): Free Comic Book Day special! Spend at least $25 and get a matching amount towards select graphic novels
Sunday (5/5): 40% off games
Monday (5/6): 40% off back issues* and select variant comics
*New comics and mylar/bronze & silver age comic boxes are excluded from the sale. Limited to stock on hand. Discounts DO NOT stack.
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As for what I’ll be wearing… I’m not sure yet! You’ll just have to come find out! :D
