Trigger warning for any of my followers. Just scroll away if you have to.
Because murder has no immediate survivors who have to suffer through the experience of being brutalized and rape survivors do? Because there is a HUGE culture around rape and how the victim somehow led to their rape, but nobody really accuses a murder victim of being sooo easy to kill or that they were asking for it. Because it’s used so dismissively. Because there’s more evidence of a murder, but most rape goes unreported.
Like, seriously Anon? And you must be seriously cowardly and expecting some backlash since you are on Anonymous.
Also, that rape scene you spoke of? Just another attempt for Millar to be OMG SO EDGY LOOK
RED MISTMOTHER FUCKER JUST RAPED A GIRL.
No. It’s not edgy. It’s not dark. This happens too frequently.
O Silver my Silver
"I’m cosplaying characters I don’t like, from shows I don’t watch, because of the physical resemblance." - male cosplayer
Why?? :( I only dress as characters I love, from shows, books, movies & video games that I enjoy. Doesn’t matter if I physically look like them or not. That’s not the point. Sure it’s nice to get a positive reaction from others, but my costumes are for me to have fun in & be part of fandom.
I actually get annoyed when people repeatedly beg me to/tell me I should cosplay some character just because they look like me. That’s not what cosplay is about, in my opinion. I don’t necessarily want to make a new costume solely to fill the ‘black female hero’ slot in a group. If I am a fan of that character, I’m all over it. If I’m not, move on.
I respect that ‘accuracy’ is so prized & desired in costuming, but the more costumes I make, the less I care about it. Especially when people try to extend that term to the costumer’s physical attributes and away from the actual costume. Not everyone is going to be 6’ tall & a wall of muscle. It’s one thing to appreciate what a cosplayer has going on. Don’t put down other cosplayers because you think their body type isn’t right for the character.
If you’re afraid of what others will say , and that’s keeping you from going to a con as your favorite character—forget about other people’s opinions. Cosplay is for fun. Fandom is full of great people who will accept you. There are some jerks, but don’t let that stop you from doing what makes you happy.
Conversely, though, I do want to point out that there’s nothing *wrong* with cosplaying a character just because you look like them. Quite a few characters have become favorites because I saw their appearance and said “hey, that’s my body type/face type/coloration” and wanted to find out more about them. I’ve made costumes because of resemblance before I knew much about a character (Aquaman, for instance!)… and then came to love the character after making that connection.
It’s sort of like that thing where people can be subconsciously attracted to other people who share their proportions or physical qualities. I’m like that with cosplay. :D That’s why I’m doing Elsa next - she has my hair!
Anyway, the bottom line, though, is the same. Nobody gets to decide how somebody else SHOULD enjoy their hobby. NOHOW.
Thank you Tumblr for the ignore feature. It is especially handy when people reblog my Wonder Woman photos just to shit on them for apparently being too African. I mean we all know that there is only so much Africanness that people can take. Even in spaces that were designed for diversity & innovation. Like Project Rooftop, the awesome idea of inviting artists to redesign superhero costumes in as many ways as you can imagine, including different ethnic backgrounds for characters & in turn allowing that to influence the costume design. Which is where I found the art my Wonder Woman costume is based on. But for some reason, anything from or inspired by Africa is treated with such undeserved vitriol, internalized shame or derision by so many. Ah imperialism. The gift that just keeps on giving.
Stop letting the internalized racism given to you by society dictate your thought processes. There is nothing wrong with the people, ideas, cultures and art of the many countries found in Africa. There IS something wrong with the world around us that is determined to perpetuate this ‘wrongness’, this need you have to separate & elevate yourselves away from being of African descent. I simply don’t have time for it. Take it somewhere else. Africa is beautiful. Racism is wrong. End of story.
Special award to her tags:
#not today #not tomorrow #not ever #y’all need jesus #what is wrong with people #theres not ENOUGH african in it #it needs more african tbh #thats it #im doing african errybody now #watch out america #here comes african booster gold
What’s wrong with a little pizza? If you’re hungry, then you need to eat. If choosing this specific food is making you feel guilty or bad, then give yourself a compromise: Eat both some pizza and a “healthier” side dish in order to plan a balanced meal.
Then save some of the pizza so that you can enjoy it later when you get the next craving! Leftover pizza has been proven to be 100x tastier, especially if you have it for breakfast.
My New York Comic Con experience has been a memorable and fabulous experience in a lot of ways. I’m going to talk about the positives later on, but for now, I have to report something more serious and disgusting. I’m recording it as I remember it with as much detail as possible because I do NOT know who this group of harassers were nor can I remember any distinguishing aspects that would help report them to the New York Comic Con staff. I am relating this story below, however, in hopes that others who have suffered harassment from this group can offer further information so we can track these people down and properly ID them. At the very least, they should NOT be allowed to perpetuate this behavior toward anyone else, and their actions be reported to convention staff.
On Saturday, October 12th, 2013 at approximately 5:30 PM, I was walking through Artist Alley with my friend A, who was dressed as steampunk-version of Death from The Sandman comics. I was dressed in an Asian steampunk outfit (an image can be seen here, taken earlier that day). As you can see in the photo, I was modestly dressed (steampunk!) and carrying my parasol. We had been stopped numerous times for pictures from attendees and interviewed courtesy by another press crew while in the Artist Alley. This is why I didn’t hesitate when a man dressed in a dark T shirt and dark jeans pulled me aside and hurriedly asked for an interview.
My friend A was busy posing for other photographers at the time. I’m noting this in case any other photographer in the room noticed them and possibly took a photo with them in the background.
The creeper interviewer (which will now be known at TCI) was about 5’ 2” – 5’4” tall (we were eye-level with each other), slightly stocky athletic built, short crew cut dark hair, brown eyes and tanned complexion. He had at least three others with him, dressed all in black. One of them carried a full camera with built in sound boom, and one other had a clip board and looked like a production assistant. There was some sort of logo on the cameraman and on the interviewer’s mic (probably some generic “The_____ show” but I couldn’t see clearly).
The following the conversation we had:
TCI: (hurriedly) Would you like to be interviewed for a show?
Me: For what show?
TCI: A TV show.
Me: What TV show?
TCI: A TV show
(Note: That should have been the first warning, but I was on my guard)
TCI: So, if I were walking in the rain, could I pay you to walk next to me with your umbrella?
Me: Pay me?
TCI: If I paid you?
Me: Then, buy your own umbrella.
TCI: No, I want to buy an umbrella with an Asian girl.
(Warning bell one)
Me: Then no.
TCI: Are you a geisha?
TCI: Can I be a geisha?
(Warning bell two)
Me. No, you can’t.
TCI: Why not?
Me: Because you lack certain things, like style, tact, grace—
TCI: Ah, but do I smell?
Me: Well, I dunno, I’ve only stood next to you for about 20 seconds, so I can’t tell if you do or not. But however—
TCI: Well in my experience, girls who stand next to me longer than 20 seconds get a cream pie.
Me: I would give you a slap in the face.
TCI: (back away) Really? Would you?
(I snap my parasol shut)
TCI: Thanks so much for the interview, bye! (leaves)
The rest of his pathetic crew, hurrying off: (muttering in appeasing tones): Thank you, thank you, thank you very much.
That ended our conversation. I walked away hurriedly in the opposite direction, with my friend A who noticed what was going on out of the corner of her eye but didn’t fully realize what was being said until I stormed off. We walked half an aisle while I explained that I had been creeped upon and was pretty enraged. This was about 5:40 PM and I decided to leave Artist Alley go to the Geeks of Color panel I was moderating. Upon exiting the Alley, deliberately looked for this group in order to snap their photo or ID for a report, but they were no where to be seen.
That was the end of the incident, but I want to warn people about this group, and really really wish I had a camera or phone on hand to record their behavior. It really sickens me to know they are out there, and judging by my interaction with them and their appearance, they seen to have an established method of approaching congoers before hitting them with this harassing behavior, particularly because 1) they knew to dress discreetly and hide any logo they had concerning their production and a way for them to escape notice easily after their filming 2) they obviously targeted me because I am small, female, and Asian, and most likely did not expect me to act as angrily as I did to TCI’s comments.
I am still angry, not as much for their disgusting fetishization and sexist comments towards me, but for the idea that they would CONTINUE this approach and would be targeting young women (a LOT of teenage girls attend this con) and treat them this way for the rest of the con (or any other convention).
If ANYONE out there has more information that they could offer in identifying these individuals, or had a similar experience at their hands, please send me a Fan Mail as soon as possible with the details. We need to act quickly in order to halt this behavior and report these scumbags for their con harassment.
Even if you weren’t at NYCC, please re-blog to get this information out there.
Thanks for your help.
This is, unfortunately, fairly common behavior at the larger conventions. I have been asked quite a few inappropriate questions by many different people with mics and cameras, INCLUDING women. I’ve been asked whether I just had sex with my also-costumed boyfriend, I’ve been asked what I would do with my Aquaman trident in bed, etc. I’ve learned a few things about this.
Your instincts are correct - establish exactly what the site or TV show is straight off. They should be willing to tell you.
Ask before you start what questions they are going to be posing. If they sidestep or are vague, be on your guard. This is an important step for me now, and I always ask in a professional manner to show that I take interviews seriously.
The moment they say something inappropriate, look them in the eye and say firmly “That’s not okay/appropriate and I’m not going to answer you/talk to you anymore/this interview is over.” As women, this can be really hard to learn to do - we tend to smile through our discomfort, be nonconfrontational, and just try to escape. But it’s important to give them the message, without any humor or politeness covering it, that what they are doing is unacceptable.
My girlfriends will tell you that I have even interrupted the conversation when THEY were being asked questions, because I knew it was time to stop. It takes some practice, but don’t take shit!
Good for you. You acted admirably at the time and you’re being awesome now. Major high-fives for your attitude and your proactiveness. Absolutely worth a reblog! I hope you find out who it is and report them to the convention.
Before I get started on making any piece of a costume, I make a TODO list to get a sense of how much actual work I will need to do to get the piece done. This help me stay on top of my projects and it also helps when I’m trying to fit cosplay into my tight schedule.
#1 Break the steps down as small as you can
This helps for several reasons:
- Having smaller tasks will let you squeeze work into 15-30 minute gaps, rather than having to block out multiple hours at a time.
- It will let you know accurately how much work is left: you can keep tabs on whether you’ll make your deadline.
- It’s a great motivation technique because you can check the small tasks off as you go! I personally love the feeling of getting things done quickly - it makes me want to craft more!
#2 Factor in research time
Most of the time, you won’t know everything that you need to make a costume piece. So incorporate research and planning into your TODO list. Research can be: finding patterns, scouting fabrics, reading tutorials on techniques.
#3 Account for practice runs
Before you dig into the expensive materials, you’ll probably want to do a practice run - especially if you’re new to a technique. But make sure that you keep track of the extra time and steps it will take to do this since you’ve just doubled the work!
#4 Include repeated or time-delayed steps
This is important if you are using any materials that need to dry, set, cure etc. Make sure that you take note of anything that needs multiple coats (i.e. repeated steps) or needs to sit/set/cure (i.e. time-delayed). I always have a separate TODO item for each coat of paint and if something needs to sit, I write down how long it will take.
#5 Keep the list updated
As you’re working you may find that you overlooked a step or that you need to redo something. Keep your TODO lists up to date so that you don’t forget anything. Nothing is worse than realizing too late that there were 5 extra steps that you needed to do.
Example: pants from Kite (.hack//Games)
Here are a pair of pants that I am in the process of making (ignore the belts):
Here is an example of the TODO list that I put together for this piece:
- Locate copy of puffy pants pattern
- Fabric dye (orange)
- Fabric paint (yellow)
- Decide to dye or fabric hunt for orange
- Fabric paint trial run « I actually have a separate list for all the steps involved with this
Supplies to purchase:« created after my research
- Orange fabric
- 1” elastic
- Yellow fabric paint
- Dark green fabric for ties
- Cut fabric pieces
- Pattern paint coat 1
- Pattern paint coat 2
- Pattern paint coat 3
- Sew main seams
- Prep pockets
- Add pockets
- Finish seams
- Add waist band
- Add hem bands
- Make hem ties
Some people seem confused sometimes about the phrase “I could care less about ________.”
Bless your heart.