Thank you for making this rebloggable. I saw it on ALB’s blog and it really struck a chord with me. I was also raised Catholic and can’t shake my pro-life roots, but I’m also becoming more and more feminist, and I’m having trouble reconciling those things. This helped me in starting to find peace with it.
I’ve been thinking about this one all day. I don’t normally reblog/post things, but I want to ask…
Doesn’t this make you basically pro-choice? To me, if you support the right of all women to have decision-making control over their bodies and their health, including when it comes down to deciding whether to have children or not, then you are pro-choice. The pro-life argument, to me, is basically an anti-choice argument. If you made the decision to keep a pregnancy rather than end it, then you are still exercising your freedom of choice… if you go one step further and you support the right of others to make decisions as they see fit, then that makes you pro-choice.
I guess I’m confused by the question and the response. It smacks of “I’m pro-choice buuut”, which has always bothered me. Whatever your personal decisions about your own body are, if you support the freedom of others, then you are pro-choice, period.
Tell me if I’m misunderstanding. I wasn’t raised religiously so I don’t have the same mindset.
Well, I have a lot of further, complicated thoughts swirling around in my head about it. No, I don’t think this post is singly the answer. But it helped me ruminate.
My problem is that I do believe life begins at conception, and so abortion is murder. But there are some ways around this. The book “How to Be a Woman” by Caitlin Moran gave me a lot of food for thought: the idea that in some cases, it actually CAN be okay to take someone else’s life. The idea that there is some crossover here with euthanasia, or self-defense. This isn’t exactly about simple freedom of choice for me, the way you’re phrasing it. It’s about when it’s okay to exercise control over the life of another person.
Basically I am forced to admit that there are situations in which it’s okay to kill, even though I consider that an utterly drastic measure and I probably could never kill anyone myself.
And I call myself pro-life because I don’t WANT to call myself pro-choice. I can’t go that far right now. I have a lot more to think about before then.
Besides, you’re making the incorrect assumption that, as Alb put it, “being personally pro-life and not forcing your shit on anyone or voting for pro-life shenanigans” is the same thing as “supporting the right of all women to etc.” It is not, not to me. I do the first thing but not the second. I remain silent. I do not support either side at the moment.
(I think Alb misphrased slightly when she described her mother as being personally pro-life while politically pro-choice, but the rest was spot on.)